Life on Life's Terms: Navigating Grief and Loss With an Open Heart
"Acceptance is not about liking a situation. It is about acknowledging all that has been lost and learning to live with that loss." Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Life on Life's Terms: Navigating Grief and Loss with an Open Heart
Let's face it. Grief is a part of life. It is a fundamental truth about life that whatever rises up will at some point fall away, and we have no control as to how or when it will happen...we only know that everything that we love and want for ourselves will go away from us at some point. Even though we all know this on a very deep level, we turn away from the truth, attempting to escape this painful fact of life by trying to control things around us. This only creates more pain and intensifies our suffering.
The Five stages of grief as taught by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross:
These are the steps that we typically go through as a response to loss. We cycle through them, in order and out of order, over and over again, and some of us get stuck in the grieving process permanently.
Grief is actually OUR RESPONSE TO LOSS - our unwillingness or inability to accept what has happened or is currentlyhappening, and it can arise in many different situations, such as:
Death of a loved one (the situation we think of first in terms of grief)
Getting fired from your job
A relationship break up
Losing your home or money
Chronic illness or pain
Upset about the state of the world we live in
Resentment about feeling disrespected by others
Other people not behaving in the way you feel they should
Any situation that you don't like - any time you are in resistance to events...you are in a state of grief.
When something happens in life that we dislike, we create internal resistance to that event. When we resist in this way, we then get stuck in the cycle of grief, thereby deepening our own suffering.
In this class we will look at ways that we can better navigate loss so that we can allow those losses, actually opportunities for spiritual growth, to open our hearts more to life.
Discuss how grief operates and cycles and how to not get stuck in one of the phases of grief
See how acceptance is different from approval (approval is not necessary)
Talk about the true nature of loss and the invitation to life that it offers
See some common arguments that we create when we face loss
Begin to understand how holding onto resistance has created more pain and suffering for us
Learn to let go of the "story" around loss and accept it for what it is
See how when we let go of our resistance, what felt lost is actually a part of us
Learn about the important role that forgiveness plays in releasing us from the pain of the past
Learn to let go of resistance and surrender to life on life's terns
See loss as an opportunity for growth and deepening our connection to life
Learn how to deal with impending loss in a more grounded and accepting way, allowing it to transform us
Surrender: Giving up what we think should be happening for what is actually happening.