I lost a dear friend last week.
"Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on the ripened grain
I am the gently falling autumn rain.
When you wake in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep."
- Hopi Prayer
There is no death. There is only a changing of form from the "solid" physical form back into the formless, limitless realm of the all-that-is a back to melding with everything, with source energy. We have access to everything and everyone we have lost through death, if we are able to shift our perspective a bit. Nothing is ever lost. The only thing that keeps us from being able to connect energetically with those we have lost is the grief - the grief is the argument - that we want them here physically, that we want it to be some way other than the way it is. This argument with the reality of things, this wanting it to be our way, keeps us from being able to fully experience that which we love. Acceptance of things just the way they are is freeing, expanding, and helps to eliminate suffering. It is our attachment to needing things to be our way and our aversion of the way things really are that creates all of our suffering in life. Learn to accept the changing tides of life - the ebbs and flows and allow yourself to be supported and carried by the river of life.
Live every day as if it were your last. Live in gratitude for the people and things around you that you love - the things that give your life meaning. Remember that life is fragile, and could slip away at any moment. All things in life are impermanent and constantly changing and transforming - accept this fact as your truth. Each day sit in gratitude for your gifts that life has bestowed upon you. Each moment is precious and should be honored and appreciated - each moment is beautiful when we shift our perspective to gratitude and presence.
When the loss of someone you love comes, ask yourself powerful questions:
"What is it I can learn from having lost someone so dear to me?"
"What is this teaching me about my strengths and weaknesses?"
"How can I grow from this experience?"
"What defenses and protections that I felt I so needed am I now ready to shed?"
- All experiences in life, no matter how difficult, are learning experiences, and can teach us deep lessons about ourselves, and about the nature of reality if we take the time to ask the right questions - ones that keep us out of the role of victim, questions that help us to step more deeply into our power, into our truth.