"To seek for some lasting security is futile. To undo our very ancient and very stuck habitual patterns of mind requires that we begin to turn around some of our most basic assumptions. Believing in a solid, separate self, continuing to seek pleasure and avoid pain, thinking that someone "out there" is to blame for our pain - one has to get totally fed up with these ways of thinking. One has to give up hope that this way of thinking will bring us satisfaction. Suffering begins to dissolve when we can question the belief or the hope that there's anywhere to hide." Pema Chodron
When we are confronted with change, with loss, especially of something precious to us, this is where the real test begins. Not that anyone is actually testing us, per se, but this is where we see where our spiritual practice really is. It is easy to spout ideas about impermanence and acceptance, and yet another to LIVE IT. I am dealing with some difficult life situations at the moment that are testing me in big ways. My old tendency, my old and very familiar way, is to run, to isolate, to play victim and to hide from the truth of reality when it is disagreeable to me. I admit it. I am human, and even as a spiritual guide and healer, we all have places within us where we get stuck- where we back away from what we know will help us, support us. I believe we are all given opportunities to grow, to evolve, and to let these difficulties and challenges change us - to transform us forever. I have made the decision, after letting myself feel what I needed to feel, and even after considering staying there in my negativity and fear, to utilize all of the learning and understanding I have accrued and grow in a way that I have never been able to before. Every seeming sad or fearful experience we have in life is an opportunity to grow. There is a gift in everything that happens to us - all of it. It may be difficult to see what that is when you are in the midst of it, but it is always there -it is simply a matter of asking yourself different questions - more empowering questions. Instead of asking questions that only deepen your pain, such as, "why is this happening?" or "why me?" ask questions that help to pull you out of the role of victim. There are no victims, and there is always something to learn, if you are paying attention. Questions such as "what am I trying to learn from this situation?" or "what is this teaching me about myself?"will serve you far better. With powerful questions like these, any seemingly "bad" situation can become a transformational experience, and can help you to grow beyond your comfort zone and change your life for the better! The choice is always yours what you will make out of any life situation. You make the choice - start choosing to not be run by outdated reactions and fears - choose a new life and a new way of being. Choose the growth and evolution of your spirit - those things that challenge us, the places that scare us - are always opportunities for a new way of being - a new way of life.